Rejection - We love to win...but we should be pretty humble in defeat as well !!!!

Huhh...weird topic to choose,specially for the time when you are writing a post almost after 2 months. But as i always says i don't generally decide to write about something and sit in isolation to note down words in it's best way. For me it's just as usual an intense discussion about one topic with different people which usually results into a blog post. So this one is also no different. I met one friend a few days ago. He is from same college and one of the best buddy of my tenure in this city and we understands each other better than most people of our age. He is just like brother (In typical Bollywood style, brother from another mother ;)) We can discuss about every damn thing in this world philosophically, hypothetically, seriously and whatever other ways you could think of.

We usually meet at the same place, have same food/drinks mostly and talk about various things in the same manner. It was that very place where I had encouraged him to express his feelings for the girl he liked and was studying with him in his Post graduation course. Then we have recalled college life and all the fun we had during those four years. Discussing details different pair's of college class room and how many of us have already got married and who is tagged with whom. Yeah typical gossips.... Who say boys don't gossips , girls do gossips in day and boys do at night specially after having cane of beer in stomach and another one in hand. :p 

When i meet him last time we end up discussing same topic and he told me that he has expressed his feeling to a girl and she has accepted the proposal they are planning to paired up in near by future. Even he told me that it was a good thing to confess to your feelings to someone you like. Because in his case both of them have feelings about each other since long but they have waited for two years till the time of departure from college. This is not only about them but i think most of the times we are too scared to express what we feel. Because we cannot take rejection. What's the big deal if someone rejects you? How does it change anything about you? No I am not talking about some rocket science here, merely stating the obvious. Yet, it's that obvious we ignore because we are scared of this rejection even if it doesn't really affect our life. It does affect you if you let it. If you are going to feel depressed about rejection then you very well deserve it. Feel depressed if someone says yes, for it's going to take away your freedom, you know ;) .

I have read somewhere that this new generation, Means our generation is raised in very competitive environment. We love to and want win each and every small battle and do not take the loss very well. Very nice statement again...

"We love to win each and every game but at the same time we are pretty humble in our loss "

This was from manager of one of the very well known football club after winning very rare treble triumph in the season.

I will not say I have approached girls too and I have been rejected . But i have never thought going that far with anyone as goal of life is entire different. Baring responsibility of family at the age of 16 has left me with no choice of any such thought. When i have lost my Dad at that age I thought it would affect me at very large scale, but it didn't. I have covered situation pretty much in last 5 years. Right now at this stage I do not see that phase of my life as challenge as i have not done any special in that phase. I have behaved pretty normal recovered well without any issue. So I believe for any rejection. If that major blow has not affected my life then these are pretty small stuff. I don't have the regret of not living such life style, like my friends had in college life. I didn't even had any thought of expressing what I felt. So I don't have to think about - I should have told her, how she would have reacted, how we would be right now and such jazz. Somewhere I'm glad that it had save me from getting 'No'. But what i think now is that all of us have changed with time. I am not going to write anything bad about any of the crushes.That would be an insult to my temporary preference... :p

Well this is an never ending debate but what i feel is that .....It's just plain stupid to keep quiet because you fear rejection. If you have reason or goal like i had then it's different case. But other wise rejection has not yet resulted into one's death...let me be specific until the stupid one had chosen extreme way of ending life. People who claim to be shy or introvert are mostly the ones who fear that they will get no as an answer. What's wrong with a no? If it turns out to be a yes, then wouldn't it be the best decision of your life at least for that moment? Have heard somewhere in some Bollywood movie...

"Na to hey hi....to fir kyu na risk ley...Shayad ha ho jaye...."

And in English also there is one saying....

"If you will gamble then you might loss....but if you don't then you will never win " (not always true....but for this when you have nothing too loss then you can gamble.... :p)

Learn to say what you feel. Life will be better that way. 

Keep it simple silly !!!!!

Cheers,

Akash

Trek to taranga -1

Taranga is a jain temple located in mehsana district surrounding by natural beauty of forest and hills. It is most famous for Jain temples and is an ideal location for trekking. We were around 32 people from office who opted for this one day trip. It was my third trek trip from my office. First and second trip were of 'Jessore' and 'Polo forest'. However none of those both were new for me as I had been there with friends earlier. Both place were just like picnic spot and there wasn't much for trekking.  But  this time it was reverse case place was new for me and not for others as it was third trip for a same place from office.

I really didn't care about place.  I just wanted to stay away from being alone at my place on weekend. So without any hesitation I have nominated my self for the trip.  Unlike all other trips this time I didn't even knew that who all were coming till last day. But what I had there in one day was completely soothing experience. Don't wanna bore you guys with ramblings of my overworked mind. Let's start with the trip details.

As usual we hadn't planned to start picking up people from early morning. Stops were decided and everyone were expected to come on time.  But as I had experienced it last time I knew that time decided was our typical Indian standard time.  No one is going to come on exact time but with all excitement I had been there on time. As usual I have seen few of them were already there. Then it had started boring session of waiting for the bus along with gags and laughter of silly comments and memory of previous trip.

After long wait bus came and we all boarded in it. Unlike last time it was well maintained.  All who had been there on last trip had shown some sign of relief after not seeing same bus in which everything was making noise except horn and music system.

Just after 5 minutes before of leaving from office it had started the typical Indian game for journey.  Yeah you guessed it correct "The Antakshari". Whole herd was divided into two groups and then it had started an awesome round of game. Most of us had great time jingling our favorite songs.

Then it came famous moment when I realized that am getting old.  We had halt for tea on highway near some small hut.  Some of us who were addicted to morning tea had rushed for tea, few enthusiasts were clicking photos but what had trigger me to add incident over here is the bunch of freshers.  Just bunch of guys with fresh blood recently graduated from college with full of energy. They had just started climbing on bus.

One of them had just threw the word and two of them had started and all others had followed.  I too have done such stuff in college life and I might haven't think twice even before  jumping from there. But this time I didn't even dared to climb few steps.  Seems like getting older , yeah I will not still words some of us might call it maturity, but I will not.

We all had lot's of fun on rest is of the way with playing games. Yeah how can I forget this.  When we all had fun in shelter of bus two friends have opted for journey with bike ride. Yeah I might need to re-think about comment related to getting old with age.  Because one of the rider was the one with more most experienced among us and the other one was ultimate fighter and kung-fu master with tremendous physical strength.

We reached at the place around 10 and after having quick snacks and small session of ice breaking and instructions we headed for the trek. Instructions were clear that one should wear shoes with good grip and obviously wearing heals while trekking is crime.  However difficulty level of trek was beginner so there wasn't anything to fear. All of us were divided into four groups and each group had allocated a leader who had some trekking experience.  The one who had attended trek earlier knew that no one were going to follow such group.  Only group will stay to gather would be group of photographer. Yeah one cant deny the fact that in the age of Fb and twitter we all wants photo. Instead of enjoying that place at that time we were eager to click photos so that we can share with friends and keep them as memories. And its not that bad either , I am too one of them.

People like us who are going to work 8 hours a day in same cubicle for next few months (till next trip) really need a dose of booster sometimes.  Such photos with lovely memories full fill the need of such booster.

So with all those excitement and energy we had started the trek. As expected we had few guys with extra energy who were exploring extra places along with normal trek route. Few were just busy in clicking photographs.  Few were just trying pass comments and cracking jokes. All of us were moving ahead in really hot and humid environment with exchanging water bottles and sharing weights of bags. First quarter was completed without any major issue.  But then wickets started falling.  Effect of Lifestyles with sitting in air conditioned office whole day started coming into picture.  People had started taking break on short duration water bottles started getting empty. Guides started to getting frequent questions about how much distance is still left?

People were divided into two groups. The ones who wanted to complete the trek fast and the others who didn't care about time and taking their time with playing pranks,  enjoying photo sessions and exploring different shelters to rest.

After gathering at first assembly point and clicking few photos with whole group we had started towards next point.  Someone has started spreading rumors that next point would be the "paap-punya ni baari" (the window of sin and virtue). The one who have done sins would not be able to pass through that window. Obviously it was rumor but we had quite good amount of laugh and fun with it.

To be continued---->

Technology - Bless or Curse

I wanted to write something about this since long but never got some incident to get started with. This happen last weekend. On Friday i have talked with Mom and then something wrong happen with her phone. I have tried calling her in morning and found it was switched off. It's habit of my mom that she only keep cell phone in charging in every morning. So i have waited till night and called again and i was not able to connect. I have called my Di who is staying in same city and asked her to see if she can call any of the neighbor and ask her to turn on her cell phone.

Unfortunately she was not able to do it. I almost had sleepless night and tried again in next morning and when it was not turn on yet i was panicked and called my aunt living few km way from my home. She was scared too and ran back to my home and then all scenario unfolded and we had good amount of laugh.

But all happen due to something wrong with technology , i had sleepless night , made few relatives to visit my home and panicked Di too. So after all this only one thought was hanging on my mind....

Technology - Bless or Curse

Time flies. Another year is about to get over. 90's got over some 14 years ago, and that itself sounds scary. These days kids learn to operate mobiles and i pads even before they learn to say their name. I was brought up in a small town where cordless phone was also considered a fancy technology in those days. We had to go to big cities like Bombay to get certain toys, or fancy branded clothes and stationery. Now you just have to order it online and it gets delivered at your doorstep. I don't even think office people use stationery much anymore. 

There was this land line era that amazed you. How easy it was to connect with people staying miles apart. Or talking to someone staying next door without meeting or shouting at the top of your voice. Or giving blank calls when his father picks up the call, making a girl call you as boys' calls are not allowed at your place. One ring means come down to play - I have been through everything. After growing up, I asked my parents if they didn't trust me as a child, they said that they did trust me, but they were just protective about me. Eventually they allowed everything they had put restrictions on back then. So yes, it was not about trust after all.

Times have indeed changed. People are becoming more and more independent by being dependent on the technology. There is solution available on internet for every damn thing. Relationships are becoming more and more fragile. Distance keeps increasing between people. We take along portable gadgets to remain in touch with people instead of taking the pain of taking out time to meet them. Sms, phone calls, voice notes, blocking them, flirting with five people at a time, everything is connected with some social life of that person, it's a trend to be there on at least three different social networking sites, or messengers. You are easily reachable, but never available.

After Facebook, how many people have you called and wished on their birthday? Instead of keeping in touch with them regularly, we use this to avoid them as much as possible. We stalk them just so that we remain secure about their commitment towards us. We want to foresee the heartbreak. We fight if one boy likes her every second post. I think I should deactivate all my social networking site accounts too the day I decide to settle down. I am that scared.

Girls get into depression if they don't get many likes on their pictures. Yes, I recently read about this. It was so called Facebook addiction. And whats app addiction. "Last seen at" killed many relationships. We stopped using technology for good. We started abusing it. And misusing it. 

I don't know where did this post start from and where is it ending. I am writing after a long time. As i already told... I have been trying to write something for quite some time, but couldn't come up with anything worth reading. I discarded at least five drafts before starting this one. I feel sad. I miss the old time. But I am happy too. I can avoid people easily. But do I really want this? Am I really out of place in this fast moving world? Changing oneself with time is a good thing, but what if it involves killing your true self completely? Am I ready for such a change? Is it worth doing so? 

Life - And many unanswered questions. And many unchallenged answers.